Three Bipolar Disorder Symptoms No One Wants to Talk About

Last Updated: 15 Feb 2022

The three symptoms below represent the side of bipolar disorder we all know is there but rarely want to let the public know exists.

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I know how important it is to protect the reputation of bipolar disorder in the general public. We don’t want people thinking we are dangerous, scary, crazy people who can’t be trusted. But I do feel we need to own up to the fact that certain mood swings DO cause the behaviors we want to sweep under the carpet. The three symptoms below represent the side of bipolar disorder we all know is there but rarely want to let the public know exists. This is only an opinion, of course, but I’m truly interested to know if you feel the same.

#1 Dangerous, Aggressive, and Violent Behavior in Bipolar Disorder

I work with parents and partners of those with bipolar disorder. In the majority of situations, people who are in a strong dysphoric manic episode can be dangerous, aggressive, and violent. Physical assault and weapons are not uncommon. Many men go to jail because of this behavior when they actually need psychiatric help. People who are mild-mannered and kind when well, both men and women, get superhuman strength along with the aggression—ripping a sink out of the wall, punching through windows, throwing chairs, and other dangerous behaviors are not uncommon.

Families and partners suffer in silence because they are scared to tell anyone about what really goes on at home.

I have violent thoughts when dysphoric mania is raging. I used to chase down cars if the driver flipped me off or made a strange face. It is not my goal to scare anyone reading this. It’s my goal that we are honest about these hidden and pushed-under-the-rug symptoms of bipolar disorder.

The solution is management. People with bipolar do not have these symptoms unless the mood swings are raging. Prevent the mood swings, and you can prevent the dangerous, aggressive, and violent behavior.

#2 Psychosis in Bipolar Disorder

I have rapid cycling bipolar II disorder with psychotic features. Although it is more common among people diagnosed with bipolar I, people who live with bipolar II also experience psychosis. I experienced undiagnosed psychotic symptoms from age 19 to 31, when I was finally diagnosed. I’ve had hallucinations and delusions all of my adult life. What scares me is that no one—and I mean no one—educated me about psychosis when I was diagnosed. It was as if the symptoms didn’t exist. When I learned the extent of my psychosis, I was appalled that I had lived with it for so long.

My symptoms were mostly visual hallucinations and paranoid delusions. I didn’t know that others didn’t have them as well! If you have bipolar I disorder, there is a 70% chance of full-on psychosis when you are in a full-blown manic episode. This psychosis can be very bizarre and mimic schizophrenia. The difference? People with bipolar disorder only have psychosis during a manic or depressed mood swing. There is no psychosis outside of depression or mania.

If a person experiences psychosis in between episodes, this is not bipolar disorder but another mental health condition. Do you or your loved ones have psychosis? If bipolar disorder is involved, psychosis could be involved as well.

#3 Cognitive Impairment in Bipolar Disorder

Many people find this scary. We already have bipolar, does this mean we have memory problems as well? Maybe. Cognitive impairment from memory lapses, forgetting appointments, being unable to remember information, and experiencing brain fog during certain episodes is common! If you have bipolar, you’ve probably felt the sluggish brain that comes with depression. If you have mania, you have probably tripped over your words, said things you didn’t mean, and had trouble thinking thoughts in order.

My cognitive symptoms visit me daily. I’m not able to remember dates and numbers, and I need help with calendars and appointments. Mine got worse after intense therapy I had for severe depression. It’s something I find distressing, but it’s easy to manage.

I want us to be open about cognitive issues. This is the only way we can get help! My cognitive symptoms tend to linger all of the time, but they get worse with mood swings. A perfect example of this: I was supposed to submit this blog by midnight. Yesterday, I reminded myself all day to submit it, but I still managed to go to sleep without sharing it on time. I have to live with these symptoms, and even though a few things slip through, I do control the majority of my minor memory problems with a good support system!

Here’s the Good News—Yes, There IS Good News!

Bipolar disorder is an episodic illness. We have all of our symptoms while in a mood swing. This means we are STABLE when we are not in a mood swing. The symptoms I list above usually go away when the illness is successfully managed. It can take regular monitoring for those of us who have daily symptoms. Others who have long breaks between mood swings may even forget the symptoms even existed. This is why we must have a management plan that can recognize the dangerous, aggressive, and violent behavior; psychosis; and cognitive impairment as soon as they begin.

I know we want to protect our reputation around this illness. We don’t want to be seen as different or “freaks.” But I ask that within our community, we get brutally honest about what really happens to those of us with the illness. It’s the ONLY way to stop the symptoms and make them stay away forever!

Originally posted January 29, 2015.

About the author
Julie A. Fast is the author of the bestselling mental health books Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder, Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder: Understanding and Helping Your Partner, Getting It Done When You’re Depressed, OMG, That’s Me! (vol. 2), and The Health Cards Treatment System for Bipolar Disorder. She is a longtime bp Magazine writer and the top blog contributor, with over 5 million blog views. Julie is also a researcher and educator who focuses on bipolar disorder prevention and ways to recognize mood swings from the beginning—before they go too far and take over a person’s life. She works as a parent and partner coach and regularly trains health care professionals, including psychiatric residents, pharmacists, general practitioners, therapists, and social workers, on bipolar disorder and psychotic disorder management. She has a Facebook group for parents, The Stable Table, and for partners, The Stable Bed. Julie is the recipient of the Mental Health America excellence in journalism award and was the original consultant for Claire Danes’s character on the TV show Homeland. Julie had the first bipolar disorder blog and was instrumental in teaching the world about bipolar disorder triggers, the importance of circadian rhythm sleep, and the physical signs of bipolar disorder, such as recognizing mania in the eyes. Julie lives with bipolar disorder, a psychotic disorder, anxiety, and ADD.
  1. I agree on the cognitive issues that I really don’t realize until I was working. Stress on top of depression or manic episodes made it unbearable. Despite having years of therapy, I never was given tools in this area.
    I did have a friend who works with adults with adhd. Both are brain based disorders an she taught me so many tools to help me with memory, distraction, etc.
    I’ve never heard of coping skills for BP that tackled this for me. It really needs to be more addresses amongst BP community and doctors.

  2. Julie,
    Great article! I was diagnosed with bipolar 10 years ago when I was 55. I have not had any agressive behaviors that hurt anyone. I have not had any hypersexuality either. I have joked with my psychiatrist that maybe I should have. I have done my fair share of yelling and have most of the behaviors that you mentioned, brain fog, bad memory etc. I think it’s so interesting that everyone who has bipolar doesn’t always follow the stereotypes.

  3. I have long term manic episodes with depressive episodes lasting only 1 min to hours even days then rite back i cant judge time im 6’4″ 320 pounds and in great shape that being said i someone much larger more muscle and work out are weak push overs to me im literally unstoppable i only get a few moments of normality like now and reach out for help then bam manic and ill cancel doc appointments cause i believe there is nothing wrong with me. I dont wanna scare anyone but im prone to violence if someone challenges me ive hurt people who have tried bullying me one punch broken eye sockets check bones jaw and even hit someone so hard in their abdomen i broke one of there vertebras yes it was self defence ive never attacked anyone just because. its always self defence but when i go into depression it all falls on me why why do i have to be like this. And another thing i could talk someone into anything i hope i can get myself help soon my mother was bipolar and my brother is type 1 bipolar schizophrenic diagnosed with psychosis by the time i post this and go pee ill find a way to delete or say someone hacked my phone or impersonated me

  4. Many MEN go to jail???? You haven’t met my sister. Lol. Watch out.

    1. Hi Bana! You bought up a good tool in dealing with bipolar.. a good sense of humor!!!
      Thank you. Bipolar Bear

  5. I loved the truth of this article. I think that others like myself have struggled with hypersexuality with a bipolar diagnosis. I had a sexual addiction I’m not sure how that plays out with the bipolar, at There were other circumstances from childhood. Regardless I know I was hypersexual during mania. I think this is a truth that is not recognized but should be within our community and beyond it.

    1. I had the same problem when I was in my 20’s but now I am in my 50’s and my taking the medications it has drastically controlled my sexual aggression.

    2. This is an interesting article. I am concerned that it generalizes inaccurately portraying people with Bipolar. Don’t perpetuate the myth that people with Bipolar are violent, they are no more than general public. Also, even when not poignantly symptomatic, There can be symptoms. The good news is developed skills including resilience from having Bipolar.

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