Self-Validate and Psychological Self-Injury
One thing Bipolar Disorder does to me is wipeout my self-esteem…Yes, I could say it’s because of the childhood abuse that I suffered both verbally and physically. I mean, I could blame it on a number of different things. But the fact is that as I slowly move down in my mood, I lose the ability to self-validate. I could try doing cognitive exercises telling myself I am worth more than I give myself credit for…or could utilize positive psychology techniques to try to change my view of my situation. These are things that have been helpful to many and by all rights are coping mechanism tools I should be relying on. So how is it I know what I can do to help myself adjust my mood yet, I do not do it?
Am I a glutton for punishment? I do deal with self-injury issues and maybe this could be psychological self-injury…that is the problem, too. I wonder is that a real term “psychological self-injury” ? I’m just making it up. Guarantee if I Google it, I will find something….(hold on let me check). Yes, I Goggled it and found 10 references to the term. I even checked DSM5 to see if I can reference that term. But there was no specific reference yet. I’m sure if we use it enough, it will show up there in the next couple years.
So, back to validation. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with getting a little support for your own validation by treating yourself to something special. Get the practice by doing something special for yourself that validates you as a person. No, not like the cartoon. We should never use pizza to validate ourselves! (Unless you invite me over to share it!)