7 Ways to Outsmart Bipolar Hypersexuality

Last Updated: 1 Aug 2019

Hypersexuality is a common, but rarely talked about, symptom of bipolar disorder. Nevertheless, it is vital that you adopt proactive strategies to help you control its impulsive urges. Here are a few to get you started:

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#1 Limit your triggers

Hypersexual behavior is often a warning sign of a manic episode, but keeping bipolar disorder managed with meds and therapy can help. Be sure to pay attention to and recognize any triggers or symptoms, including those concerning sexual behavior. Once you are aware of these, you can communicate them to your partner or a friend so that he or she can keep an eye out for such red flags.

#2 Treat the disorder

When bipolar disorder is not being treated effectively, the person’s sex life can become unstable. By treating the bipolar symptoms and getting hypomania and mania under control, this will often help manage hypersexuality as well. Treatments may involve medications such as mood stabilizers or antipsychotics and cognitive-behavioral therapy and family counseling.

#3 Look at medications

Medication often plays a key role in hypersexual disorder treatment. Some medications may help reduce compulsive behaviors and obsessive thoughts; others may target specific hormones associated with sex addiction or reduce accompanying symptoms such as depression or anxiety.

#4 Communication is key

Since high-risk sexual behavior can include having sex with more than one partner, it’s crucial that couples discuss openly the impact that bipolar disorder may have on their sex life. This open dialogue can help reduce negative consequences, including unplanned pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases.

#5 Consider sex therapy

Getting help from a therapist in addition to medical care is important for the patient and the partner in order to resolve sex-related issues in the relationship. Sex addiction treatment could involve some combination of couples therapy, psychotherapy, family therapy and support groups.

#6 Physical activity

As part of her treatment for bipolar hypersexuality, that includes medication and psychotherapy, Olympic runner Suzy Favor Hamilton relies on lots of physical activity. She participates in everything from yoga to cycling to hiking to intense cross-training. “I still need the ‘pain’ of working out to feel good,’’ she says. “But I’ve found other outlets. Intense exercise definitely is great therapy for me.”

#7 Don’t put it off

Many people can feel shame or humiliation in seeking help for hypersexuality and sex addiction. Unfortunately, medical professionals may seem awkward in talking about this as well. If you are unable to control your sex drive or treat these hypersexuality symptoms on your own, it’s crucial that you don’t put off getting help, especially if it’s hurting your relationships.

  1. I wonder if this was something I at one point in my bi polar journey had dealt with now finally on what I feel is the right medication combination and therapy. it’s gone away thst rush, the hunt I’m not sure it’s started later in my 20’s I didn’t date before that too much I was a bit of a late bloomer. I suppose that might have saved me some more guilt and pain for not understanding this was even a symptom until later (maybe too with age who knows if the feeling is no longer there as it once was) I kept a list of partners I hate looking and counting but it reminds me the only thing or person to be added to that list is if I ever say “yes” to a proposal

  2. I have just had to leave a long term marriage due to my husband’s porn addiction. I am really wondering if he is Bipolar as well. He has horrible mood swings . One day he is singing loudly when he doesn’t know I am home and the next day he is yelling at me.

    He has become lazy, arrogant and very critical towards me. i have suffered for too many years and my mental and physical health have been impacted greatly. i need to self-heal and move on…

  3. Dear Overwhelmed, I’m wondering if you’ve ever considered separation. If you have, would you share with me/us your reasons. Would you share your reasons for not separating? For me, a partner who does not take their meds would be a deal-breaker. Perhaps it’s because I’m 40 years old and hope to have more than half of my life remaining. I have hopes and dreams to fulfill. I just couldn’t conceive of suffering a partner who is unwilling to do their part to be accountable and responsible for their illness. To say the very least that it is a turn-off. Same with the excessive porn use. Of course, I would still have much love and hope for them, but my life is precious as are my dreams. If my partner was the source of such struggle and pain, and there wasn’t any signs of them improving, I would probably set a course for separation. I mean no offense. I’m just so curious about others’ thoughts on this subject. I wish you well whatever you decide.

    1. Please send me free issues of BP Magazine. Thank you

  4. My husband is Boplar. He does not take his meds, and does not go to therapy. He has hurt me emotionally and physically. I have major depression, anxiety, and PTSD. I am the only bread winner in the house. So, I have no sexual appetite, and he has a lot. This is the root of many fights, almost as much as money. We are planning to ask the psychiatrist for the montly Ambilify injections to see if this will be more resortful than oral meds that he refuses to take.

  5. Bipolar has to be one of the hardest to control because it’s all the emotions going like a prize racecar. I take the meds but still have the symptoms. I knowmy bipolar is not controlled yet. Almost there?. The hypersexual thing is so hard to control, it explains why I had so many…many woman sexual encounters when I was in my 20s. I didnt know then I was bipolar. I was a drinker, lite at first. Lots of fights and police encounters.?

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