Bipolar Husband, Wife, Parent

Building and maintaining your marriage when your spouse has bipolar can be challenging. Check out the articles below for personal stories, practical advice and tips on maintaining healthy relationships with your husband, wife or partner.

Blogs and Articles

From Helicoptering to Collaborating: Working on Recovery with Loved Ones

Katherine Ponte
February 22, 2019

Having a partner over-involved in your recovery plan can result in frustration, resentment, and confrontation. When you collaborate though, you can work as a team on your recovery. I couldn’t stand my spouse “helicoptering.” It was part of his over-involvement in my care which disempowered, discouraged, infantilized and enraged me. I admit that at times...

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From a Father with Bipolar: Key Approaches for Healthy Relationships

Karl Shallowhorn
December 4, 2018

Parenting is tough even without a bipolar diagnosis. However, there are strategies that can help you maintain healthy family bonds through the challenges.   I am the proud father of two daughters, age 23 and 20. My girls are each the “apple of my eye” and anyone who knows me understands that this is the...

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‘You Want Me to WHAT?’ How Trusting Friends and Family Can Help Ease Bipolar’s Grip on Our Minds

Julie A. Fast
June 21, 2018

Sometimes it helps to trust that our loved-ones can provide valuable insight into our behavior to help us cope with symptoms.   By Julie A. Fast   My mom is by far my biggest support. She has always been here for me even when she had no idea how to help me. It has been...

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Love, Bipolar Disorder, and Being Worth It

Carin Meyer
January 15, 2018

My husband could say I am “worth it” despite my bipolar illness, but he does not. Instead, we both say that is a question that should never be asked.   When it is below zero and I am ice fishing on a frozen Alaskan lake, I concentrate all my energy on catching fish. Each time...

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Medication Is No ‘Magic Potion’ for Bipolar Disorder

Brad Hoefs
October 23, 2017

When you have bipolar disorder, no medication can truly change your attitude or thinking, as I learned from my late father.  It takes hard work.   My dad was the first person I knew who had bipolar disorder.  It was back in 1975 that he had a “nervous breakdown.”  For months he battled severe depression....

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5 Things I’ve Learned Being a New Parent with Bipolar Disorder

David Wise
April 1, 2017

I often wondered what parenting with bipolar would be like, but nothing could prepare me for the reality of having a new baby to love and to care for.   On March 2, 2017, I became a new parent to our first living child, Pablo Phoenix Wise. It’s been a whole new adjustment ever since....

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Bipolar & Relationships: Coping with Change as a Couple

Beth Brownsberger Mader
February 10, 2017

Even in a great marriage, handling major life changes while also managing bipolar disorder is challenging. Step back, take a breath, persevere!   The return to our beloved Colorado last spring after 17 years happened quickly, though we had been planning it in our hearts for some time. It was a matter of my husband...

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10 Ways To Successfully Manage Bipolar Disorder As A New Mother

April Michael
January 18, 2017

As a new mom, I think the key to maintaining mental health postpartum is vigilance – whether it’s by taking your medications, seeing your therapist, or whatever else you find works.   I am a new mom, and I have bipolar disorder. There may be nothing particularly unique about this, but let me rephrase it...

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I Am Still Ashamed to Tell My Husband When I’m Depressed

Jessica Kaushik
July 15, 2016

Damn stigma. I am still ashamed. And I really don’t understand why. I told my now husband weeks into dating, nine (9) years ago this summer, that I was Bipolar. I was totally open. Now I am hiding that I am currently winding down the road of depression as I am now off my wellness...

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3 Tips to Keep Your Relationship on Track

Robin L. Flanigan
July 13, 2016

Here are a few ideas to keep you and your sweetheart in synch when living with bipolar disorder. By Robin L. Flanigan   Cultivate connection: Even during severe depressive episodes when she wants to isolate herself, LaRae of Maine can deeply feel her husband’s love in one of his hugs or an offer to clean...

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Bipolar & Relationships: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Robin L. Flanigan
July 13, 2016

Breakups can be brutal—and can easily trigger bipolar symptoms. By Robin L. Flanigan   The end of a relationship often ushers in dark feelings like abandonment, guilt, and rejection. Even if the relationship was toxic and getting out was the right decision, there may be a sense of failure or self-blame. In any case, there’s...

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The Sweethearts Deal: How To Keep Your Relationship Healthy

Robin L. Flanigan
July 1, 2016

Building a strong relationship takes work. When one partner has bipolar disorder, thriving together takes a more focused effort. Here is what helps couples cope. By Robin L. Flanigan   Maureen met her husband, Gary, 24 years ago. They were both on a bowling team for people in the music business—she booked internationally known artists,...

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Bipolar & Fatherhood—Father of 4 Shares Tips for Success

Chato Stewart
April 13, 2016

Tips from a dad raising four children on the importance of talking about your mood swings and mental health.     By Chato Stewart   Welcome to the Bipolar and Fatherhood bphope Vlog. I am Chato Stewart—husband & father of 4 children. Today, I like to speak to you about what I believe, is the...

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Listening to Unsolicited Advice – Some Advice on Bipolar Disorder and Pregnancy

April Michael
March 1, 2016

Ok, so I’m not really here to offer you any advice, at least not yet. The last several months have brought many changes to my life, welcome yet difficult. But nothing could have prepared me for the journey I have recently begun. As of this writing I am seven weeks pregnant, and I couldn’t be...

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How Can I Have A Perfect Bipolar Marriage?

Chato Stewart
February 21, 2016

The Family Stew In the above mental Health Humor Cartoon I drew is part of The Family Stew series. Here is where I believe we place the keys to minds and hearts…When we first fall in love and decide we want to spend the rest of our lives with this person.  We are filled with...

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Bipolar Disorder and the Marriage-Go-Round

April Michael
January 19, 2016

Marriage without mental illness, so I’m told, is challenging enough. Add bipolar disorder, and you are in for some extra work.   “Write what disturbs you, what you fear, what you have not been willing to speak about. Be willing to be split open.” – Natalie Goldberg, author of Writing Down the Bones: Freeing the Writer...

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5 Things to Remember when Being a Parent with Bipolar Disorder

Yvette Adams
November 24, 2015

Your bipolar disorder wellness plan, as a parent, should take into account both you AND your children.   This post looks into the challenges faced by parents diagnosed with bipolar disorder and provides some insight into how to develop a recovery plan inclusive of the well-being of their children. The bipolar disorder Having bipolar disorder...

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Bipolar & My Struggle with Alcohol Dependence

Jessica Kaushik
November 4, 2015

To paraphrase Frida Kahlo: “l tried to drown my isolation in alcohol but the bastards learned to swim”… If you follow ME at www.beingbipolarisntyeasy.com or even here, you are fully aware that I have been struggling these last few years in Macau, China. I gather, feeling alone, disconnected from my husband as a young mother...

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Across the Miles: Meet Australia’s Sharon Chisholm

Sharon Chisholm
October 27, 2015

My name is Sharon and I live on the mid-north coast of New South Wales, Australia. I’m 45, married with 2 children and I moved to Australia from England in 2002 aged 32. Prior to having children, I had not experienced mental illness and had always been a fairly positive, enthusiastic person who enjoyed life....

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Balancing Motherhood & Bipolar

Lori Hile
October 1, 2015

For Jennifer Marshall—wife, mother, and creator of  ‘This Is My Brave’—a bipolar diagnosis led to a more satisfying life and redefining what really matters. By Lori Hile   Jennifer used to define success in terms of her high-powered recruiting job for one of the top creative staffing agencies in the Washington, D.C., area. She was...

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