Dating and Bipolar

Bipolar disorder can add some extra challenge to the world of dating. See the articles below for strategies to consider when it comes to meeting someone new, personal stories and practical advice.

Blogs and Articles

When Do I Tell a New Love about My Bipolar?

Julie A. Fast
August 29, 2019

Are you trying to make the decision to disclose? First assess—and address—your own opinion about bipolar disorder. Your feelings about bipolar affect how and when you tell a potential partner. Note from the Author: This blog is about sharing a bipolar diagnosis with a new love. Although I talk about my experiences telling people about...

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Managing Impulsivity with Bipolar Disorder

Andrea Paquette
August 13, 2019

There is a significant difference between being irresponsibly impulsive and being adventurous. On the outside, they look the same. To tell the difference, I take time to reflect, recruit someone I trust, and listen to my heart. We often hear about bipolar disorder and how it can result in impulsive shopping, but what about other...

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Bipolar Can Be A Blessing For Loving Relationships

Andrea Paquette
June 11, 2019

Bipolar disorder doesn’t have to be a ‘negative’ in a relationship. It may instead offer profound and meaningful breakthroughs for both partners. There are numerous articles that point to partners who have bipolar disorder as having tendencies toward infidelity, or anger outbursts, but readers need to realize that not every person with bipolar disorder will...

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Loving Someone With Bipolar––When You Also Have Bipolar

Valerie Harvey
May 22, 2019

A willingness to stand firm in the face of less-than-ideal circumstances is required of everyone involved in serious relationships. It’s 11:30 p.m. on a Friday night. I have bipolar disorder and took my medication more than an hour ago. I’m angry, upset and can’t sleep! My partner, who is also diagnosed as bipolar, and I...

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5 Truths About Maintaining a Loving Relationship When You Have Bipolar Disorder

Andrea Paquette
July 5, 2018

Having bipolar disorder is challenging when it comes to maintaining healthy relationships, but there is much we can do to encourage the acceptance of ourselves and one another.   I have been in love many times throughout my life and have had a number of long-term relationships. The last one ended after we were together...

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Dating and When to Disclose You Have Bipolar Disorder

Lynn Rae
April 18, 2018

You may find it best to be upfront about your bipolar disorder diagnosis, so you can make sure you are with a person who will be supportive.   By Lynn Rae   Dating is difficult at any age.  But when you add bipolar disorder to the mix it can be extremely daunting.  How does one...

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3 Benefits of Loving Someone With Bipolar Disorder

Jasper Benitez
May 12, 2017

Would you believe me if I told you there are benefits to loving someone with bipolar disorder? Probably not. Which is precisely why I will be making the case for it. There is no doubt that individuals diagnosed with bipolar disorder can often be difficult to interact with. Their episodes, their attitude, their way of...

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Bipolar & the Dating Game

Tracey Lloyd
October 12, 2016

Dealing with romantic rejection when you have bipolar disorder means using coping tools like positive self-talk that will arrest the slide into depression. By Tracey Lloyd   Dating sucks. I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again. But maybe I should amend my statement and say that finding someone to date sucks. There are...

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Persevering Through Valentine’s Day Depression

Wendy K. Williamson
February 19, 2014

Before I met my husband, Valentine’s Day was a holiday that I absolutely hated––mainly because of the crippling depression that it usually brought. Ah, Valentine’s Day. It used to be a holiday I hated. I stared at goopy couples hand in hand while I waited on them in restaurants wondering what was wrong with me....

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Telling Your Date About Your Bipolar Disorder

Karl Shallowhorn
December 6, 2013

Telling a date about your bipolar disorder is an impossible dilemma. Just remember: honesty pays off––and you will probably end up kissing a lot of frogs. I met my wife at a party in 1992.  At this time I had no expectation of any kind of a connection so my defenses were down.  At this...

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Jim Has Bipolar Disorder. How Long Does Jane Stay?

Julie A. Fast
April 25, 2013

You can’t force a loved one with bipolar to take their medication––that’s entirely up to them. So, as a caregiver, it’s vital for you to set clear boundaries. Scenario: Jane loves Jim who has bipolar. He does very well on meds. It’s a miracle as his initial manic/psychotic episode was epic. At least once a...

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Is It LOVE, Or Is It MANIA?

Stephanie Stephens
February 7, 2013

Giddy romance and mania have a lot in common, so learn the signs that tell you which is which. In Irving Berlin’s catchy Broadway tune “You’re Just In Love,” a puzzled young man wonders why he can’t sleep or eat, yet feels like he’s walking on air. It’s OK, he’s told: You don’t need analyzing,...

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SOUNDOFF! Love or Mania

bp Magazine Readers
February 3, 2013

The euphoria and obsessiveness we feel in the early throes of new love have a lot in common with symptoms of mania. How often have you found yourself wondering if your “true love” is really true? Do manic episodes often find you pursuing “the one”?   I was in the early throes of new love with my girlfriend in a...

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Unhealthy Relationships: Are They Making You Sicker?

Julie A. Fast
November 29, 2012

Outside of medications, carefully choosing the people in your life––and cutting out any unhealthy relationships –– is the #1 way to manage bipolar disorder. I’ve been managing bipolar disorder successfully for over 10 years. By successfully, I mean that I work on my health every day and learn from my mistakes. Lots of mistakes. Outside...

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How To Not Be Jealous Of Other People’s Success

Julie A. Fast
September 16, 2012

It’s extremely tough to not be jealous when you see someone achieve what you may not––or never––do because of the limitations of bipolar disorder. It’s so hard to be generous when you feel terrible. It’s hard to be happy for others when you’re unhappy. It’s hard not to be jealous when you see someone get...

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Sex *GASP* Did I Really Just Say That?

Marybeth Smith
July 8, 2012

For many people, sex is an uncomfortable topic––especially as it relates to bipolar hypersexuality. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t talk about it. Now that I’ve got everyone’s attention … I’m going to breech the subject that makes me incredibly uncomfortable! We all know hypersexuality is a symptom of bipolar disorder, but it’s also a...

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Finding “The One” When You Have Bipolar Disorder

Melody Moezzi
April 30, 2012

Finding (and choosing) “The One”––a life partner to unconditionally love and support you through bipolar disorder––is hands-down the most important decision anyone will ever make. I met my husband, Matthew, some 15 years ago, and we’ve been married for nearly ten. He’s sat with me and held my hand in countless hospitals; traveled with me...

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Dating While Bipolar: It’s Not You, It’s Me

Danielle Belton
February 17, 2012

While other people ponder the question of “Is it me?” as to why they are single, in my case I KNOW it’s me––and my bipolar––that are making me single. Valentine’s Day has always been a source of anxiety for me as it seems to be the singular holiday meant to remind the chronically single that...

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Why I Don’t Date: A Poem

Julie A. Fast
February 16, 2012

BP Magazine columnist and bphope blogger Julie Fast’s poignant and witty response to the question “Why I don’t date with bipolar disorder.” I don’t date because waiting for a guy To call me or text me makes me cry In frustration and anger But not towards him He’s just a nice guy from the internet...

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The 4 Stages of Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder

Marybeth Smith
February 12, 2012

Persevering through the symptoms of bipolar disorder in a loving relationship is like weathering the stages of grief. Just hang on. Marriage before my diagnosis wasn’t a roller coaster; it was more like a broken escalator shifting up and down, my husband and I stumbling over each step. As young newlyweds unaware of what made...

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