Why You Need a Crisis Plan

Last Updated: 1 Jul 2020
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Last year, I began receiving a flood of emails from a friend I’ll call “Paul.” I met Paul at several DBSA meetings, and I was a big fan. He was a writer too, a few decades older and quite wise. That is, when he wasn’t delusional. Not long after we first met, Paul started sending me some weird emails—and not just me. He was cc-ing everyone from Congressmen to his publisher to his sister to the President of the United States. He had clearly gone manic.

 

Unfortunately, as a result of these long ranting mass emails, he lost his publishing contract for his first book, as well as many close friends. Though I tried to help Paul, by the time I figured things out, it was already too late. He had already lost insight into his own condition, and I couldn’t bring him back. I tried contacting his closer friends and family, but it seemed as though they had all been through this with Paul many times before and were beat. The consensus was that there was nothing we could do for him besides set clear boundaries as to what we would and wouldn’t tolerate. So that’s what we did, hoping all the while that Paul would back away from his delusions and paranoia on his own. He didn’t. He’s still very ill, and he still can’t see it today.

 

As unfortunate as Paul’s story is, it has taught me a lot about the importance of thinking ahead and creating a Crisis Plan when I’m not in crisis. Today, my plan includes a list of my preferred hospitals, all my health insurance information, and a financial and healthcare power of attorney.

 

Do you have a Crisis Plan? What does yours look like? Let us know by leaving a comment below!

About the author
Melody Moezzi, an award-winning author and visiting professor of creative nonfiction at the University of North Carolina Wilmington, is also an activist, attorney, and keynote speaker. Her most recent book, The Rumi Prescription: How an Ancient Mystic Poet Changed My Modern Manic Life, joins her earlier works: the critically acclaimed Haldol and Hyacinths and War on Error, which earned her a Georgia Author of the Year Award and a Gustavus Myers Center for the Study of Bigotry and Human Rights Honorable Mention. In addition to her Flight of Ideas column for bp Magazine, Moezzi’s writing has appeared in many outlets, including Ms. magazine, the New York Times, the Washington Post, NBC News, the Guardian, HuffPost, Al Arabiya, and the Yale Journal for Humanities in Medicine. She has also appeared on numerous radio and television programs, including CNN, BBC, NPR, PBS, PRI, and more. Moezzi is a graduate of Wesleyan University, the Emory University School of Law, and the Emory University Rollins School of Public Health. She divides her time between Cambridge, MA, and Wilmington, NC, with her husband, Matthew, and their ungrateful cats, Keshmesh and Nazanin. For more information, please visit melodymoezzi.com and follow her on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.

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