Three Bipolar Disorder Symptoms No One Wants to Talk About


The three symptoms below represent the side of bipolar disorder we all know is there, but we rarely want to let the public know exists.


I know how important it is to protect the reputation of bipolar disorder in the general public. We don’t want people thinking we are dangerous, scary, crazy people who can’t be trusted. But I do feel we need to own up to the fact that certain mood swings DO cause the behaviors we want to sweep under the carpet. The three symptoms below represent the side of bipolar disorder we all know is there, but we rarely want to let the public know exists. This is only an opinion of course, but I’m truly interested to know if you feel the same.

#1 Dangerous, aggressive and violent behavior in bipolar disorder

I work with parents and partners of those with bipolar disorder. In the majority of situations, people who are in a strong dysphoric manic episode can be dangerous, aggressive and violent. Physical assault and weapons are not uncommon. Many men go to jail because of this behavior when they actually need psychiatric help. People, both men and women who are mild mannered and kind when well, get super human strength along with the aggression- ripping a sink out of the wall- punching through windows- throwing chairs and other dangerous behavior are not uncommon.

Families and partners suffer in silence because they are scared to tell anyone about what really goes on at home.

I have violent thoughts when the dysphoric mania is raging. I used to chase down cars if the driver flipped me off or made a strange face. It is not my goal to scare anyone reading this blog. It’s my goal that we are honest about these hidden and pushed under the rug symptoms of bipolar disorder.

The solution is management. People with bipolar disorder do not have these symptoms unless the mood swings are raging. Prevent the mood swings and you can prevent the dangerous, aggressive and violent behavior.

#2 Psychosis in Bipolar Disorder

I have rapid cycling bipolar disorder two with psychotic features. I experienced undiagnosed psychotic symptoms from age 19 to 31 when I was finally diagnosed. I’ve had hallucinations and delusions all of my adult life. What scares me is that no one and I mean no one educated me about psychosis when I was diagnosed. It was as if the symptoms didn’t exist. When I learned the extent of my psychosis, I was appalled that I had lived with it for so long. My symptoms were mostly visual hallucinations and paranoid delusions. I didn’t know that others didn’t have them as well! If you have bipolar disorder one, there is a 70% chance of full on psychosis when you are in a full blown manic episode. This psychosis can be very bizarre and mimic schizophrenia. The difference? People with bipolar disorder only have psychosis during a manic or depressed mood swing. There is no psychosis outside of depression or mania. If a person has psychosis in between episodes, this is called schizo affective disorder. Do you or your loved ones have psychosis? If bipolar disorder is involved, psychosis could be involved as well.

#3 Cognitive Impairment in Bipolar Disorder

Many people find this scary. We already have bipolar disorder, does this mean we have memory problems as well? Maybe. Cognitive impairment from memory lapses, forgetting appointments, being unable to remember information and experiencing brain fog during certain episodes is common! If you have bipolar, you’ve probably felt the sluggish brain that comes with depression. If you have mania, you have probably tripped over your words, said things you don’t mean and had trouble thinking in order.

My cognitive symptoms visit me daily. I’m not able to remember dates and numbers and need help with calendars and appointments. Mine got worse after [intense therapy I had for severe depression.] It’s something I find distressing, but it’s easy to manage. I want us to be open about cognitive issues. This is the only way we can get help! Mine tend to linger all of the time, but get worse with mood swings. A perfect example of this- I am supposed to put this blog up by midnight the day of my blog slot. I reminded myself all day yesterday to put it up, but still managed to go to sleep without posting it on time. I have to live with these symptoms and even though a few things slip through, I do control the majority of my minor memory problems with a good support system!

Here’s the good news—yes, there is good news!

Bipolar disorder is an episodic illness. We have all of our symptoms while in a mood swing. This means we are STABLE when we are not in a mood swing. The symptoms I list above usually go away when the illness is successfully managed. It can take regular monitoring for those of us who have daily symptoms. Others who have long breaks between mood swings may even forget the symptoms even existed. This is why we must have a management plan that can recognize the dangerous, aggressive and violent behavior, psychosis and cognitive impairment as soon as it begins.

I know we want to protect our reputations around this illness. We don’t want to be seen as different or freaks. But I ask that within our community, we get brutally honest about what really happens to those of us with the illness. It’s the ONLY way to stop the symptoms and make them stay away forever!

About the author
Julie A. Fast is the author of "Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder," "Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder," "Get it Done When You’re Depressed" and "The Health Cards Treatment System for Bipolar Disorder." She is a columnist and blogger for BP Magazine and won the Mental Health America journalism award for the best mental health column in the US. Julie was also the recipient of the Eli Lily Reintegration award for her work in bipolar disorder advocacy. Julie is a bipolar disorder expert for the Dr.Oz and Oprah created site ShareCare. Julie is CEU certified and regularly trains health care professionals including psychiatric residents, social workers, therapists and general practitioners on bipolar disorder management skills. She was the original consultant for Claire Danes for the show Homeland and is on the mental health expert registry for People Magazine. She works as a coach for parents and partners of people with bipolar disorder. Julie is currently writing a book for children called "Hortensia and the Magical Brain: Poems for Kids with Bipolar, Anxiety, Psychosis and Depression." You can find more about her work at and
  1. Hi Julie. You’re a blessing to all of us! I’ve experienced two of the three symptoms that you described. Please read my blog, Inside a Depressive Episode, published on 3.8.19. in this online magazine. Please help us continue to beat that “huge schoolyard bully,” (bipolar) down.

  2. Julie, I’m really glad you brought up these topics! It’s important for all people to know that these symptoms do indeed exist for some (not all) people with bipolar disorder, and that doesn’t mean that those who experience such symptoms are bad people.

    It is true that most people with severe mental illnesses, like bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, are not violent people. It is a shame that we are stigmatized for such notions. However, as stated above, some with these disorders do get violent at some point(s) and that is often because of the illness. Sure, some people are violent by nature, but so are some people without a mental illness.

    I recently read an article by a woman complaining about being stigmatized as a person with bipolar disorder. I disliked her article immensely. Why? Because she made one statement after another basically saying “I’ve never been violent…I have two degrees and work full-time… I maintain lots of friendships…so people shouldn’t stigmatize me!”

    Though I was happy for the writer mentioned above that she had such capabilities and fortunes, many of us don’t, because of the illness. I felt SHE stigmatized me and many others with the illness. It was not the first time I’ve witnessed people with mental illness stigmatizing others with mental illness. And as for people naturally prone to be violent, I do wish others to be safe from them, but I don’t label them evil, like many do. I don’t always know the circumstances of why and how some people become violent. I did learn that nature and nurture plays a part sometimes. I believe that stigmatizing people with one disorder but not another, is not fair. I am referring to all disorders in the DSM-5.

  3. Responding. To Shell,
    I’m. 60 now dealt with this all my life. My oldest child disowned me. My younger child didn’t but I don’t have any other family left that will associate with me. I look after myself see someone weekly take medication that at times changes, I could go on but I don’t want to instead I refuse to be a victim any longer did that much too long without knowing it. I live 1 minute at a time and finally take care of only me. All my life I was a caregiver it wasn’t until my mom died kids grew at 60 I got my chance to work on me. I just had a 3 month maniac attack then crashed hard now for going on 3 months in bed crying profusely daily and unable to sleep all night. I’m sharing this for the very first time as yesterday someone. Told me about this magazine. Thank you for sharing

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