5 Rules To Keep Your Manic Hypersexual Urges Under Control
Here are 5 tips to help you control your hypersexual urges before they control you.
Over the past few months, I’ve been getting an increased number of people on my blog that are curious as to how I’m able to keep my hypersexuality under control. For me, if I don’t stay focused, I’ll never be able to conquer it. Here are 5 rules I created for myself that have been a tremendous help to me over the past year:
Rule 1: Limit your triggers.
I’m not even kidding when I say this is the hardest one to do. Whenever an advertisement pops up on my computer or an erotic scene in a movie starts, I tend to get triggered really bad. What I’ve learned to do is avoid them. That means change the channel, avoid those websites, or switch the radio station. It also mean that I can never watch some of my favorite movies ever again. It’s the world I’ve come to accept if I don’t want my bipolar II to take over my life.
Rule 2: Write your feelings down.
This may come as a shock to many of you but I hated writing. I honestly did. I was never the kind of person who would journal or even read. It wasn’t until I started to blog about 9 months ago that I realized exactly how helpful it was. It felt freeing to get all the bipolar clutter out of my head.
Rule 3: Contact your medical professionals.
Please don’t ignore the early signs and pretend you can handle them! I know how ridiculously tempting it is to just “ride the wave” and hold onto the mania. No one wants to let go of the natural bipolar high we get. Sooner or later though, the mania takes over your brain and makes you do things you would never do stable. Don’t wait until it’s too late. Get medical help as soon as possible. If necessary, check yourself into the emergency room. Do whatever you can to make sure the situation doesn’t spin out of control.
Rule 4: Call someone.
As soon as you start to feel tempted to act out, call a friend or family member. I can’t emphasize this enough! You are powerless against the unearthly draw of a brain malfunction gone haywire. Your primal instincts are trying to make you do things that are destructive to your health and well-being. Unfortunately, you cannot do it alone. You just can’t. You need a third party outside of your brain to set you back on track. Reach out to people in your life who care about you and know your goals for the way you want to live.
Rule 5: Keep your goal always in mind.
You may be doing it to stay faithful to a spouse or partner. You may be doing it to protect your children. You also may be doing it to protect yourself from physical or legal ramifications. Whatever your reason, stay focused on the end goal. If you want to live a life free the bondage of acting out, then you need to concentrate on the initial reasons you stopped in the first place. Those are your true beliefs regardless of how you may feel right now. Don’t ever lose sight of them.
If you follow these guidelines, you’ll be much better off. This doesn’t mean that the urges will go away or that you won’t be tempted ever again. All it means is that you have control over the mania rather than the mania having control over you. What helps me keep things in perspective is equating my hypersexuality to a bear in a cardboard cage. When that bear wakes up, there is nothing I can physically do to stop the bear from tearing that cage apart and going on a rampage. I need help. Once you accept that you are powerless over the lust, it becomes a battle of wits versus brute strength. You are far more capable of outmaneuvering the problem rather than facing it head on.
Remember, you are force to be reckoned with. Bipolar has no power over you. Don’t be afraid rather step up and take charge of your life. Your behavior is a symptom of an illness.
Don’t let the symptoms take over and ruin your life.