When Depression Clings to Pain from the Past—Learn to Talk Back
We can move beyond the negative, distressing events of our past—that is, if depression isn’t forcing us to relive these agonizing moments.
I have painful things in my past, just like everyone. And what I find is that depression makes it really difficult to move on from that past pain.
For example, let’s say there’s a breakup in my past, just like for most people. That’s fine. Breakups hurt. You mourn, you get over them, you move on. The thing about depression is I find it really clings to that pain. It clings to that breakup and doesn’t let me move past it.
It’s like a broken record of pain in my head that just keeps playing over and over and over so that I can’t take the next step.
I can’t take the step to just forget about it and move on. I can’t seem to do that.
What seems to happen is that depression looks for painful things from my past to remind me of, to actually repeat them in my brain saying “pain, pain, suffering.” It’s a weird thing. It’s a depression loop. It’s a depression loop that clings onto the past.
I find this really difficult. The only thing that I can think to do is talk back to that pain and say, “You’re in the past. I’m moving beyond you.”
And to talk to the depression and say, “I know you’re doing this. I know you’re bringing back this pain. I know it’s not reasonable. I know I need to be over it, I need to get over it. A reasonable amount of time has passed.”
That’s the only thing I can think to do about it but I hope you have better ideas. If you find that depression makes you cling to the pain of your past, let me know how you deal with it.
My name is Natasha Tracy and this is bp Magazine’s bpHope vlog